EVERY YEAR
1.6 MILLION
DIE
BY HOMICIDE.
Murder doesn’t just take a life; it pulls the ground from beneath the survivors left behind.
They drown not in sorrow, but the silence of a thousand breaths held,
and the thoughtless assumption that survivors can navigate the impossible alone.
White Noise: The Underbelly of All That Lingers, Surviving Sudden Death Grief exists so that no one has to.
WHEN
WORDS
FLATLINE
For every victim of homicide, an entire network of people's lives are deeply injured and forever changed. I am one of those people.
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I learned the hard way that survivors are often left to suffer alone - isolated and disenfranchised because of the abnormality and horror of death by homicide. We are often greeted with superficial platitudes or kept at a distance while our grief goes unacknowledged, unexpressed, and unhealed. People retreat, not for lack of love, but because murder asks all of us to stare into an abyss none can name. Words flatline.
The resulting, deafening silence is a phenomenon I call White Noise - "the silence that sings 'cause nobody got nothing to say." And living through it is brutal.
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When my partner was murdered, I was dumbfounded to discover how few resources existed for homicide grievers. Yet as a transformational counselor, I already knew there were vital needs that must be met to even create the possibility of healing:
• the need to connect with others who understand,
• to name one's suffering aloud,
• and most importantly to know we are not alone.
But when you experience trauma in a culture deeply uncomfortable confronting hard subjects, where do we go for shelter? To what or whom can we turn for emotional oxygen?
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The only support I found required a whopping, four-hour pilgrimage, weekly, to sit among others like myself and benefit from courageous leaders devoted to holding safe space for those of us forever changed.
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Let's be clear, the spectrum of grief support in America reveals a staggering gap. While resources abound for anticipated loss, survivors of homicide (suicide, accidents, abrupt endings) endure not just the trauma of sudden loss, but secondary wounds: isolation, systems that fail us, and a culture that treats murder like contagion instead of tragedy that touches us all. It stunned me then. It breaks my heart still.
I wrote White Noise to bridge the gap.
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I created it to eliminate every barrier that threatened to suffocate me. I wrote it to save myself, but also to ensure no other survivor would have to drive four hours to find someone who could face their reality and not turn away.
I wrote it to be a steady companion in those first impossible hours, days, months - when the world expects you to know what you need while your life is busy unraveling. I wrote White Noise so that healing could begin the moment someone places it in a survivor's hands, not after they've figured out how to ask for it.
SACRED
GRIEF
COMPANION
The White Noise book is a sacred grief companion for survivors of homicide loss, written by someone who’s walked that road.
Forged in the crucible of personal tragedy and therapeutic insight, this book is part witness, part guide. Through short, unflinching prose, transformative prompts, and guided inquiry, White Noise helps survivors carve a path through grief, rather than around it.
It does not attempt to fix grief. It simply refuses to abandon it.
And in doing so, is the companion every survivor of homicide loss deserves.
IMPACT & REACH
The reach of White Noise has been versatile and transformative, particularly in underserved communities.
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In these communities, the book has become not just a tool for healing, but a template for how to hold grief collectively, offering both survivors and those who support them a path to presence, connection, and care.
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Beyond the written page, White Noise has informed live trainings, facilitator support, and grief-centered community rituals — including a two-day panel symposium featuring stakeholder interviews and Neycha’s original performance intervention drawn from the White Noise album.
It has also been distributed in bulk, ensuring that survivors never had to pay out of pocket or go without access to meaningful support.
Rural Coalition Use
Adopted by coalitions in rural regions addressing both homicide and suicide grief, bringing structured support where access was previously nonexistent.
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Facilitator
Training
Model
Used to train dozens of grief group facilitators through a multi-year partnership with regional social service and nonprofit organizations.
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Peer-Led support
Adapted for use in peer-led grief circles—trusted spaces where survivors support one another through shared experience and mutual witness.
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Curriculum for Closed Groups
Served as both curriculum and companion text for 12-week closed grief support groups tailored to those navigating sudden and violent loss.
PARTNER
WITH
US
If you are here, you already know.
You know that co-victims of homicide exist in the margins of care.
You know that society asks the impossible of the grieving:
to know what they need, to say it clearly, and to find it alone.
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But survivors of violent loss don't need instructions.
They need presence.
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You're already in the room -
often the first to meet the grieving where they are,
while the rest of the world recoils.
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Whether you're a funeral director serving as the first keeper of ritual after violence,
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-a victim advocate holding space in the aftermath,
-or a chaplain standing vigil in hospital corridors,
you've chosen to witness what others cannot bear to see.
And in this way, we are kin - comrades in the trenches,
holding grief and the ruins of what remains.
Partnering isn't about creating new programs or hosting workshops.
You don't need additional infrastructure or training to be an ally.
Because what White Noise offers is simple:
a way to extend your remarkable labor with a sacred resource designed to hold what cannot be said - but must be held.
For it is not the tragic losses alone that threaten our survival.
It is the subsequent silence and how persuasively it influences us
to believe we are alone - without hope that anyone will ever be able
to really touch the pain we carry inside.
I am a witness that it can save a life to stand guard over another person's pain - pain that, if kept inside strangles life, one unspoken word after another.
Without this divine exchange, we are capable of much less.
This is why White Noise exists - to make that exchange possible from the moment tragedy strikes.
As a partner, placing this book in survivor's hands, you offer what most of them never receive:
acknowledgment that inhabits their reality rather than sidesteps it.
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Because we know, most never ask for help. Some never recover.
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And for any of us who retreat from the opportunity to act in the beginning, we risk becoming part of the silence survivors never forget.
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You can be the difference.
You don’t have to do more - just refuse to do nothing.
This is your moment.
How We Partner
There are many ways to place White Noise into the hands of those who need it most.
Whether you're a small family-owned funeral home or a multi-site organization serving thousands, each partnership begins the same way: with care, and the willingness to witness.
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For those ready to act, orders can be placed immediately.
For those called to co-create a deeper alliance, I’d be honored to connect.
